NIJOD

When I read the word NIJOD, I know I can cast my worries aside and enjoy peaceful sleep.  “What’s NIJOD?” you ask?  Allow me to explain…

My 26-year-old son Jeremy lives with me.   But at 26, he’s not a child, so he does his own thing and it’s not like I can stop him, even if I think whatever it is he has planned might be a bad idea.  However, because we are technically roommates (and because he doesn’t have the most reliable truck and is no stranger to speeding tickets and traffic accidents), I still get a little mama-bear-worried if he’s not home around the time he says he will be.

My 30-year-old daughter Stefani does not live with me and hasn’t for years.  While I still get pangs of mama-bear-worry over her, they don’t usually come unless I happen to know she’s in a potentially dangerous situation (such a traveling out of state with bad tires or brakes).  But as for her day-to-day life, since I don’t know her hourly plans, I just have faith that she’s doing well unless I hear otherwise.

My sister Michelle lives with me.  We are technically roommates and have witnessed a lot of the worst life has to offer (unlike my kiddos who are still young enough to think bad things won’t ever happen to them), so because Michelle and I are both old ladies responsible adults, we’ll both still give a courtesy call to each other or even to Jeremy if our plans have changed and we’ll be home significantly later than expected.

It took several years times of trying to explain to Jeremy that I’m not trying to control his every move, but rather just want confirmation that he’s not been in an accident or ended up in jail for some reason (not that he’s criminally mischievous – he’s definitely not, but he also would have no qualms about defending himself by beating the crap out of someone if he felt they were threatening him).

Finally, I got him to agree to texting me a code word if he’s going to be very late or not come home at all that night.  NIJOD.  NIJOD is our code word, and it’s an acronym for “Not In Jail Or Dead.”  I used to text him “NIJOD?” and hope he replied, but now, he almost always automatically sends a quick NIJOD text on his own and I go to bed without imagining all the possible reasons why he might be so late.  Apparently, texting NIJOD is a lot cooler than answering calls from your mama-bear-worried mommy who calls to check and make sure you’re okay if you’re not home when you said you would be.

So, if you’ve got a teenager or twenty-something kiddo who still lives with you but doesn’t feel like they should still have to report their whereabouts or change in plans, you can feel free to adopt NIJOD for your own covert communication efforts.

Let’s talk:  Do you call or text your at-home person or people when your plans change?  Would you be happy with a code word if your at-home person or people was running very late?

14 thoughts on “NIJOD

  1. I like it. I grew up in an era without cell phones, and letting someone know where you were going and returning was important. Imagine being 100 miles from the nearest phone and having your pickup break down and you can see why.

    • YES! I used to run the interstates between both Florida coasts several times a week when I was a new driver, and I can’t tell you how many times I had car problems and ended up stranded in those days before cell phones. I guess kids these days can’t relate.

  2. You have a loving relationship with your kids. It shows. I think this is a great lesson in how easy it is to be thoughtful. I need to remember this for when my little one is old enough.❤️

    • Thank you, Sandra! It’s sometimes difficult for me to remember the things that weren’t around when I was a kid (like cell phones and the wheel) are things that my kids take for granted have always been there. 🙂 ❤

  3. It’s only being courteous to let people know if your plans change. I’m glad your code word works.
    (I think it could also be a good idea to make certain the person is who they say they are–since there are lots of scams these days.)
    I don’t know, so can’t worry, about daily things in older daughter’s life. Younger daughter lives closer, and stays in touch more.

  4. I like the idea of having a code word to let others know that everything is okay. I think no matter who you live with, there should always be a way of letting each other know that you’re both safe and sound when away from home. Also, NIJOD is a clever code word – I like it!

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